How to convince others? - Part One
Preaching is not a simple matter. Even more so, if like me going out with the assumption that you do not know what is good for someone. I think that I have no right to tell anybody and I let everyone make their own choices.
Yet every day like it or not, and so continue to persuade their arguments. Perceive to their way of thinking. Even if only talk about how and what I think, in a sense, then also try to influence the recipient, so that my point of view of how best to present and how apparently. Persuade not only to think in a certain way, but also to work exactly what I expect.
Ability to effectively persuade is important for each nace. For people who want to trudnić conduction, management and governance, it is vital and necessary skill to master. It is in this way - convincing - affects the others. In doing so well, we can use force, energy and human capacity in order to join us achieve our common goals.
The only question is - how?
1. Challenge
There are two ways to do it. One is the praise, and the other opposed to it is a negation. In both of them affects the other person's ambition, and her sense of importance. Let's say that our task will be to convince the worker to a better, more effective work. In the first case, we can say, for instance:221; really did you get along perfectly with this task. I noticed that the work put a lot of energy and always do it at the highest level. Well done! ". It is not even important whether the person is actually doing what we say. Of course, one must be sincere and you must also exercise restraint, but the most important thing is to positively encourage such a person. She believes that this is true. He will do everything to ensure that their good image and not break the tight Work on improving its efficiency. The second path, through negation, can be presented in these words: "Just as I expected, you're not able to perform this task at the highest level. I doubt that you should be able to manually pull the matter further. Last thoughtThat just happened to not fit the job. "The purpose here is that the caller felt hurt and what is important - krytykującemu decided to prove that it is wrong that he can do more. Me personally, this second statement to poorly motivated, but there are some who need a strong kick and it's negative. It is important to sense which way convince and motivate more specific person.
2. Refer to the nobility.
To find something, it is worth recalling to help something that is important for the caller. It is possible that nothing will help us as much as an appeal to the ideals, principles and values which guided our interlocutor. In other words - you need to appeal to the nobility. If there is such possibilitybility - do not hesitate to tell us how your proposal will be współgrała with the values of the caller. Tell me how it can comply with its own principles and beliefs, doing what you want. Convincing refer to something more important and more substantial than the same operation. Of course, to do this you must first know the caller. This is the most important point. Then just this use is only a matter of proper communication and accurate the selection of arguments.
3. Give to think that this decision of the caller.
How do you convince someone to do something, and while he had no idea that it was convinced? From all what I write in the subject of persuasion can make the greatest difficulty. Najeasier with the activity that this will help the caller to cast their votes. He must feel that it is valid. Must actively participate in decision-making. It is such a person might ask "What do you think? What is your opinion? ". Although we can not depend on the opinion of that person, and in fact it will not be much difference, the same question will make the person feel more responsible. It will be more attached to the decision, because finally participated in the process of its making. Another (how perverse:)) way is ... actually give a decision in the hands of callers. Do not convince him that he has influence, but actually give it to him. Do not stop a good idea for you, but give it a different wayso we took him for his. While he will engage to work as never before.
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Today, only three points. The next four and a further part of the article soon.
Monday, 28 December 2009
Tuesday, 22 December 2009
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Can you ask for too much?
To achieve anything, you have to want it. A deep faith in handy. There are obvious.
You can, however, the "volition" overdo it. You can not just want too much, but "too much work." At this point it would be interesting to determine what it means too much, where is the border?
It's not easy to find. Your best bet is to say that the border is where additional action or additional desire to not bring anything good, quite the contrary - to distract us from. I just - sometimes you can overdo it.
Well it is visible even in dealing with people. For example, the more I show how I care for someone, the more I will postwięcał that person time and attention, the less I'll be worth it. Why? Because in this way becomes "easy". We are not so much on someone who is at your fingertips on every call. Difficult to get someone, it's not available is something that is already challenging.
Another situation can happen at work, where we want to please the boss. We unmistakably his every command, even with a vengeance. Unfortunately, we do not stop at this, because with every opportunity to praise and the favor which is great. Eventually end up in different ways, but very often so that we are regarded as mere toady. Boss is not respectful to us, not to mention the colleagues from work.
Moving away from contact with people - you can overdo it in the inny way. You can pretty much want to pass the exam. Let it not be merely a desire, but something more - the whole attitude towards each other, all their thoughts on the outcome. This is good, it leads you in the right direction, but here you can przecholować. If you want too much, at the time of the exam will be very tense. You'll feel much pressure, which itself narzuciłeś and if something does not come out fall into panic. As a result, you do not write anything sensible.
This raises my main conclusions:
1. It is sometimes odpouścić, throw on the play. Detach themselves from certain cases, to stop heavily involved and let them go their own pathways.
2. Sometimes things do not go, because we chose an inadequate method. Inthis case, the more you want something, that we are on this further.
To achieve anything, you have to want it. A deep faith in handy. There are obvious.
You can, however, the "volition" overdo it. You can not just want too much, but "too much work." At this point it would be interesting to determine what it means too much, where is the border?
It's not easy to find. Your best bet is to say that the border is where additional action or additional desire to not bring anything good, quite the contrary - to distract us from. I just - sometimes you can overdo it.
Well it is visible even in dealing with people. For example, the more I show how I care for someone, the more I will postwięcał that person time and attention, the less I'll be worth it. Why? Because in this way becomes "easy". We are not so much on someone who is at your fingertips on every call. Difficult to get someone, it's not available is something that is already challenging.
Another situation can happen at work, where we want to please the boss. We unmistakably his every command, even with a vengeance. Unfortunately, we do not stop at this, because with every opportunity to praise and the favor which is great. Eventually end up in different ways, but very often so that we are regarded as mere toady. Boss is not respectful to us, not to mention the colleagues from work.
Moving away from contact with people - you can overdo it in the inny way. You can pretty much want to pass the exam. Let it not be merely a desire, but something more - the whole attitude towards each other, all their thoughts on the outcome. This is good, it leads you in the right direction, but here you can przecholować. If you want too much, at the time of the exam will be very tense. You'll feel much pressure, which itself narzuciłeś and if something does not come out fall into panic. As a result, you do not write anything sensible.
This raises my main conclusions:
1. It is sometimes odpouścić, throw on the play. Detach themselves from certain cases, to stop heavily involved and let them go their own pathways.
2. Sometimes things do not go, because we chose an inadequate method. Inthis case, the more you want something, that we are on this further.
Sunday, 20 December 2009
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Your emotions
Emotions have been with us a long time. It's older sister thought, our primary communication system. Before we think and we have become aware of - "thought" with emotion. They are natural, pre-programmed responses to stimuli from the world. When primitive man saw dangerous animal, he plugged the appropriate emotion - fear or excitement. That emotion meant that a person behaved in a certain way - run away, he cried out accompanied by either doing something else. Whatever.
If we talk about emotions - it is important that they have their purpose - based on external stimuli, to man the information, causing the appropriate response. We do not need to know more about emotions. They are notunusual, are not present for the people. As usual, are the product of evolution.
We just have something to say, nothing more. Therefore, it is futile to talk about them, they are good or bad. Who wants to - can do it, although I think it's unnecessary. Szufladkując our emotions, describing them as bad, we try to move them from one another. When we fear we can say "no, I'm never afraid." It's a lie. Lie to ourselves, and so emotion, we wanted to get rid of us is even deeper than before. Lying is not the solution. Only the truth liberates.
Just as the thoughts - emotions too can exercise control. And in this sphere turns out to be a master. JeSLI is now ruled by emotions, you simply do not know about it. The thing to deal with emotions is not "by force". Suffice only two things - awareness that you are master of the situation, and to hear what he has to say experienced emotion. Once you hear it - you can do with it whatever you want. And best to do nothing, leave it to itself.
When I heard that I can be happy, happy all the time, I thought that something is wrong here. When I heard that he did not have to be angry or sad, I thought that something was not right. Life is identified with that - with emotions, with continuous emotional and atmospheric ride from top to bottom and back. Believe me - these states are notreal life. Now, even though emotions are more in me, I know that and so they are only information. They are in me, but not me.
If you get rid of the influence of 'good' and 'bad' emotions, you are finally free. Emotions are in us and this is right, not to change it. It is not about you control the emotions. The idea is that they are not to pilot you.
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ps. text today is another excerpt from my book. You have the opportunity to taste it, even before anyone decided to issue
Emotions have been with us a long time. It's older sister thought, our primary communication system. Before we think and we have become aware of - "thought" with emotion. They are natural, pre-programmed responses to stimuli from the world. When primitive man saw dangerous animal, he plugged the appropriate emotion - fear or excitement. That emotion meant that a person behaved in a certain way - run away, he cried out accompanied by either doing something else. Whatever.
If we talk about emotions - it is important that they have their purpose - based on external stimuli, to man the information, causing the appropriate response. We do not need to know more about emotions. They are notunusual, are not present for the people. As usual, are the product of evolution.
We just have something to say, nothing more. Therefore, it is futile to talk about them, they are good or bad. Who wants to - can do it, although I think it's unnecessary. Szufladkując our emotions, describing them as bad, we try to move them from one another. When we fear we can say "no, I'm never afraid." It's a lie. Lie to ourselves, and so emotion, we wanted to get rid of us is even deeper than before. Lying is not the solution. Only the truth liberates.
Just as the thoughts - emotions too can exercise control. And in this sphere turns out to be a master. JeSLI is now ruled by emotions, you simply do not know about it. The thing to deal with emotions is not "by force". Suffice only two things - awareness that you are master of the situation, and to hear what he has to say experienced emotion. Once you hear it - you can do with it whatever you want. And best to do nothing, leave it to itself.
When I heard that I can be happy, happy all the time, I thought that something is wrong here. When I heard that he did not have to be angry or sad, I thought that something was not right. Life is identified with that - with emotions, with continuous emotional and atmospheric ride from top to bottom and back. Believe me - these states are notreal life. Now, even though emotions are more in me, I know that and so they are only information. They are in me, but not me.
If you get rid of the influence of 'good' and 'bad' emotions, you are finally free. Emotions are in us and this is right, not to change it. It is not about you control the emotions. The idea is that they are not to pilot you.
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ps. text today is another excerpt from my book. You have the opportunity to taste it, even before anyone decided to issue
Monday, 14 December 2009
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How to become a leader?
Can leadership be learned? I witnessed several discussions on this topic and how it happens in the discussions, opinions were divided. My opinion is that leadership can be learned, because I made him up concrete elements - knowledge, attitudes and skills that can gain or improve. Some of us are more predisposed to lead, but that does not mean that someone can not do that, because "he was not born a leader."
Can leadership be learned? I witnessed several discussions on this topic and how it happens in the discussions, opinions were divided. My opinion is that leadership can be learned, because I made him up concrete elements - knowledge, attitudes and skills that can gain or improve. Some of us are more predisposed to lead, but that does not mean that someone can not do that, because "he was not born a leader."
Monday, 7 December 2009
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What to focus the most?
At your disposal we have a certain number of hours. Although sometimes much I wanted to, I can not make that my day was 30 hours. Even these twenty-four and I do not use so if I wished, in the end once you sleep and gain energy.
It's that time that we have to land is limited to one, how important effect - we do not do anything, what we want. Physically, this is not possible, so you have to choose - to see the match on TV or go for a walk? Make a presentation in Power Point, or go for training? Something from my backyard - write a post on the blog, or listen to an audiobook?
In addition, such choices are well and those that are more importantsix consequences. I had to choose for example - to engage in activity in the SCD-u or not? Study day or in default, and may resign from college completely?
Although we do not have time to do all what we want is to have enough time to do anything important. The whole problem and challenge is to figure out what is important and what to focus on. This will help you answer four key questions:
1. What do you like to do?
Robiłbyś What if money were no longer a problem, if you had as many as you want?
What gives you the most pleasure?
What gives you the most satisfaction?
2. What are the best?
What have the largestThis feature increases the achievements?
What are you doing better than others?
What Makes Us Different
3. What are your core business?
What is important in what you do?
What skills are needed?
What makes the best?
4. What do you most limited?
What are your bottlenecks?
What will give the greatest effect if it will improve?
What do you most inhibited in achieving success?
It is worth returning to these questions when the need arises. I urge you, you sat down now and the time devoted to each other on not honestly answer. I guarantee that it will not be time wasted. Take a pen and write on a piece of your answers. After discharge, determinewhat are the key areas which should be paid. What will give the greatest effect, what you enjoy doing in życiui what you're best. Put it do what you want and just focus on those things.
Finally, I recommend a book by Brian Tracy's "Eat the Frog." It is also thanks to her blog entries will appear on effective life, activity and time management. Tracy in an interesting and as always a very easy way to learn how to act to get rid of the habit of postponing and postponing, how to do important things first. I listened to this book, appropriately transformed, has made something of myself and work out something really valuable, piece by piece and then Ito share with you.
ps. For relaxation I recommend a short film on how to grow a few hours on superprocencie in Hubert. For the more advanced trade and breeding seasons
At your disposal we have a certain number of hours. Although sometimes much I wanted to, I can not make that my day was 30 hours. Even these twenty-four and I do not use so if I wished, in the end once you sleep and gain energy.
It's that time that we have to land is limited to one, how important effect - we do not do anything, what we want. Physically, this is not possible, so you have to choose - to see the match on TV or go for a walk? Make a presentation in Power Point, or go for training? Something from my backyard - write a post on the blog, or listen to an audiobook?
In addition, such choices are well and those that are more importantsix consequences. I had to choose for example - to engage in activity in the SCD-u or not? Study day or in default, and may resign from college completely?
Although we do not have time to do all what we want is to have enough time to do anything important. The whole problem and challenge is to figure out what is important and what to focus on. This will help you answer four key questions:
1. What do you like to do?
Robiłbyś What if money were no longer a problem, if you had as many as you want?
What gives you the most pleasure?
What gives you the most satisfaction?
2. What are the best?
What have the largestThis feature increases the achievements?
What are you doing better than others?
What Makes Us Different
3. What are your core business?
What is important in what you do?
What skills are needed?
What makes the best?
4. What do you most limited?
What are your bottlenecks?
What will give the greatest effect if it will improve?
What do you most inhibited in achieving success?
It is worth returning to these questions when the need arises. I urge you, you sat down now and the time devoted to each other on not honestly answer. I guarantee that it will not be time wasted. Take a pen and write on a piece of your answers. After discharge, determinewhat are the key areas which should be paid. What will give the greatest effect, what you enjoy doing in życiui what you're best. Put it do what you want and just focus on those things.
Finally, I recommend a book by Brian Tracy's "Eat the Frog." It is also thanks to her blog entries will appear on effective life, activity and time management. Tracy in an interesting and as always a very easy way to learn how to act to get rid of the habit of postponing and postponing, how to do important things first. I listened to this book, appropriately transformed, has made something of myself and work out something really valuable, piece by piece and then Ito share with you.
ps. For relaxation I recommend a short film on how to grow a few hours on superprocencie in Hubert. For the more advanced trade and breeding seasons
Tuesday, 1 December 2009
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The road to a million - November
Please, how time flies - we already have in December.
Is that not too fast? Probably not. If someone, it seems that time goes faster and faster, it means that he just slowed down. Me about it certainly should not be suspect. Over the last few days to get bored for sure, I can not complain. And well, even very good. This month, except for a few days of celebration is going to be really busy.
Effects of small - and I hope you can see on the blog. In the end I took to be some sensible tagging and Organizing everything into categories. Now, just so she went along with this valuable content, which you and I wish.
Continuing with the blog topic - I can not determine how often will I pisal. Certainly would not be too many "paste" the content of others unless it will be something really strong. If you have something I wrote, it has to be something important, bringing real change. We acknowledge the principle that once something is done, it must be done well, and not łebkach. I must admit, I thought about it, to stop writing, or at least be suspended temporarily. Fortunately, the idea quickly fell, and from time to time I write something new.
And now for a million ...
Do not want to anticipate events, and therefore deliberately not won it yet now, wait until September. Anyway, so I would not write about
Currently working on a book - about once mentioned. Inaściwie already wrote it, it now remains only to spend. With this is small problem, but from that to solve them. You will have to work hard on the book, in case I needed help - I will know.
In addition to the book is still action in the student body. I recognize the great, positive people and crazy time we do something sensible. Not going to be a million, at least not directly, but the time spent in the association is certainly not time wasted. The plan is an interesting project in the subject of leadership, in which I act as coordinator.
The last of the worth mentioning "things" is ... business. Finally, ideas from a paper I start to put into practice. While every phase of the projectc Initial. Last I counted and counted ... 72 (!) Where reasonable business ideas. Sam I am not physically able to perform it, and I know that at least some of them may bring about meaningful money. Volunteers and seriously thinking I invite you to contact us, with great pleasure to talk to, to establish cooperation, or simply one of the ideas przehandluję
That would be enough. Please bear with us again, but I have no idea when lived to the next entry.
Please, how time flies - we already have in December.
Is that not too fast? Probably not. If someone, it seems that time goes faster and faster, it means that he just slowed down. Me about it certainly should not be suspect. Over the last few days to get bored for sure, I can not complain. And well, even very good. This month, except for a few days of celebration is going to be really busy.
Effects of small - and I hope you can see on the blog. In the end I took to be some sensible tagging and Organizing everything into categories. Now, just so she went along with this valuable content, which you and I wish.
Continuing with the blog topic - I can not determine how often will I pisal. Certainly would not be too many "paste" the content of others unless it will be something really strong. If you have something I wrote, it has to be something important, bringing real change. We acknowledge the principle that once something is done, it must be done well, and not łebkach. I must admit, I thought about it, to stop writing, or at least be suspended temporarily. Fortunately, the idea quickly fell, and from time to time I write something new.
And now for a million ...
Do not want to anticipate events, and therefore deliberately not won it yet now, wait until September. Anyway, so I would not write about
Currently working on a book - about once mentioned. Inaściwie already wrote it, it now remains only to spend. With this is small problem, but from that to solve them. You will have to work hard on the book, in case I needed help - I will know.
In addition to the book is still action in the student body. I recognize the great, positive people and crazy time we do something sensible. Not going to be a million, at least not directly, but the time spent in the association is certainly not time wasted. The plan is an interesting project in the subject of leadership, in which I act as coordinator.
The last of the worth mentioning "things" is ... business. Finally, ideas from a paper I start to put into practice. While every phase of the projectc Initial. Last I counted and counted ... 72 (!) Where reasonable business ideas. Sam I am not physically able to perform it, and I know that at least some of them may bring about meaningful money. Volunteers and seriously thinking I invite you to contact us, with great pleasure to talk to, to establish cooperation, or simply one of the ideas przehandluję
That would be enough. Please bear with us again, but I have no idea when lived to the next entry.
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