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The principle of "two sides"



The fact that there is a rule, I realized recently, about three weeks ago. It was a conversation with koleżnką, during which, as always, I listened more than I did. It would not, so my time has come for confession. So I told one case. Well, I was afraid of the evaluations of others. I was afraid that they think badly of me, and they have a bad opinion about me. I did it all the time, still observing the reactions of others.

This conversation allowed me to look at it from another perspective. I heard those words more or less:

"And do you continually rate the people in your neighborhood? If not, why have you still have to assess? "

What it's easy! I had no non-but to agree - because I was so afraid of continuous evaluation, since he did not assess? I was and I'm staring at myself, just like everyone else, so I do not pay attention to even the way they are different. We are all selfish, I do not know good or bad, but it is so. Why did I could not understand why this is still persistent in his delusion, treating them seriously? So seriously, that "the need for acceptance," I considered one of the main needs, as well as my main "flaw".

Phew .... friend a short sentence that was something amazing for me. Yes, if I had met face to face with the truth. Very nice feeling:) I understood the principle of "two sides". It says thatto relate to each other according to the same ratings, criteria, categories - think of yourself in the same way as we think about others.

This reminds me a bit of the word "Do not do what you unpleasant neighbor." In my case it could be "if you already have determined the rules of the game, let it be the same - for you and other people." Each stick has two ends, and every medal the two sides. If you want your relationship was just a little bit healthier, and he want to feel better, just see for yourself just how you look at others. Remember that you are neither better nor worse than anyone you meet in life. Do not be for yourself or for raw, it's noble to put in a worse situation than others, and ripsÆ hero.

Live, looking at everything from both sides, also helps you find the truth and see the world as it is. And here is, after all we want, is not it?

ps. Another lesson for today is that it is sometimes helpful to hear what others have to say. In this way, we often come to the truth so obvious that we we would not fall on them